There are a few things I want you to know about me as a personal trainer. These are important as they influence how I approach your training and will ultimately affect our relationship and your feeling of success.
I don't care what you look like
Yes, many people come to a personal trainer with the goal of a tighter, harder, slimmer appearance. AND THAT'S FINE. It does not, however, need to be the one and only thing that defines your success or value - as a person working on their fitness goals or as a human being. You are valuable. Not "in spite of... " your body; not "regardless of..." your body; not "because of..." your body. You are valuable. Period. End of sentence.
I believe in the value of limit-setting
I believe it's important to say "no." This will allow you to learn to recognize when you really want to say "yes." This will help you across every aspect of your life, but how you and I will implement and practice it is in these ways -
1. Set a goal for yourself. This will be time-limited, specific, measurable, and realistic.
2. Determine what is needed to reach this goal.
3. Practice identifying and managing goal-interfering behaviors and thoughts which get in your way and ultimately make you believe you are a failure. (This is the majority of the "saying no" part)
4. Practice Radical Acceptance and self-compassion because you WILL make mistakes, regress, stall, etc. THIS. IS. NORMAL. It is NOT helpful, however, to beat yourself up over it, although you will. Everyone does. We will practice helping you reduce this behavior and begin practicing a more self-loving, self-compassionate, accountable, and self-respecting dialog with yourself.
Punishment and Reward
There is no "punishment food" for missing out on a workout (or for any reason). Exercise isn't "punishment" for eating some tasty but "bad" food. Food isn't "good" or "bad." It's fuel. It helps you stay alive and get stuff done.